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Dream Life

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New Year’s resolutions and magazine covers are littered with promises of a, “dream life.” But even as I read these headlines I am struck by happiness. I feel deeply satisfied to be exactly where I am. This is a powerful realization. As we’re caring for and healing ourselves the goal does not have to be change. The end result need not be something different. Our dream life may be the life we are living right now, exactly as it is.

Each of us is perfect already. As we are and where we are right now is enough. We don’t need to work on ourselves or modify our habits to fit into the world or to be worthy of love or life. There is a hilarious quote, “Before you go and change yourself check and see if you are in fact surrounded by assholes.” Sometimes we are perfect and it is only our environment that requires adjustment. Or maybe just our perspectives. We are, each of us, unique and divinely made. Our purpose cannot be known until it is time. And everything arrives at its appointed time. You are already whole and perfect.

If you need permission to love yourself exactly as you are right now – with no edits or changes – you have it. You have my unwavering love and support to embrace yourself exactly as you are and exactly where you are. I wouldn’t change anything, unless you want to. And really even if you only aspire to change but you never quite get there that’s completely ok. You are perfect here and now. 

If you’re spending time in places, or with people, who do not make you feel loved it may be time to switch that environment. Move to spaces where you are celebrated and appreciated. Let’s never change unless we want to. There is no other, “dream life.” You’re loved right now. You’re wonderful right now. And I can see it, I hope you do too. Your life is wonderful and any difficulties are only temporary. You’ve got this. I believe in you.

Letting Go of Control to Accept More

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We’re preparing for showings of our home, putting out hand sanitizer and shoe covers. Dusting and scrubbing all the nooks and crannies we may have missed in our first purge before the photographer came through. I am downsizing my closet and clearing out anything that makes our house look a little too full. Just because we’re ready for more room doesn’t mean the house has to look like it!

The process of trying to clean everything has been a gift, it has helped me to realize that when I am clinging tightly to the small things my hands are too full to accept the larger blessings and good fortune the universe wants to give me next. I don’t love this lesson but I’m learning it.

Therefore, I am intentionally making a point to only do the next right thing. This often means something small, organizing a drawer or dusting off the dresser so that I feel like I have done my work. In letting go of my attempts to control the results I free myself. Not only do I feel lighter but it leaves my palms open, ready to catch whatever comes next.

The housing market is wild in the mid-west and, from what I read, all over the country. If I focus my energy on clinging to what we have, I’ll never be ready to catch the good things coming my way. And I want to be able to accept the goodness the universe has prepared for me with open hands. I do not want to be so fixated on controlling every small thing that I have no room left to grab something big. It occurs to me that we do this a lot. Hoping for more while desperately clinging to the things we have – what if we just let go?