Do Less

The key to having more is wanting less. Consumed by progress and momentum, we often loose sight of the fact that where we are used to be a dream. Consider where you are right now and trust that you are exactly where you are needed. It is necessary for you to be here right now. Can you do less? Be less? Accept where you are and resist the temptation to ask for more.

As human beings we are forever growing and changing. As Americans we are forever consuming and capitalizing on opportunities. We live in a consumerist society. Our purchases are made from big name stores. Our homes reflect the images we see on HGTV. The best wisdom I have heard on this is from author Thrity Umrigar. She said, “By the time your kitchen is finished the style will be outdated. It only makes sense to only do what you like anyway.” 

How many times do we finally nail down a style only to find that it is no longer popular? The answer is not to stay ahead of fashions or buy more. The answer is simply to consume less. Style changes, taste is forever. We continue to emulate Coco Chanel’s style and she was just copying the nuns in the convent where she was raised. True elegance is finding your own style and sticking with it.

We do not need more stuff to be relevant or worthy. Focusing on lack gives us all a feeling of inadequacy. We fear that we have done so little and blame ourselves for not having achieved or accomplished more. What if instead of convincing ourselves that where we are is less than where we want to be we appreciate all the work that we did to get here? We worked hard to arrive in this place. It is not perfect and that is ok, but this moment is something special.

Oprah tells us that when we celebrate more we find more to celebrate. Take the time to celebrate yourself and all the you have done to reach this place. You don’t have to get anywhere else. You don’t have to achieve or purchase anything more. Don’t do one more thing today until you feel fully the pleasure of being here. Savor it. Enjoy it. Do less. There is nothing further that you need to do. This is enough. You are enough. Isn’t it wonderful?

You Are Enough

My offering today is not to direct or instruct but to share some hard-won wisdom. You are enough exactly as you are. You have all of the skills, talents, and experiences required to do everything that needs to be done. Even as we strive to grow and improve, never forget that you are completely perfect, exactly as you are right now. You are enough.

It is necessary and important to take care of yourself and to take your time. There is no race. There is no accomplishment that is more valuable or necessary than your own personal wellness and wellbeing. Taking care of your needs first – if that is mental health, doctors appointments, or just taking a break – these are your priorities. There is no power in exhaustion or depletion. And it does not serve you to do too much. Trust that those you are surrounded by may be relied upon. Let others lift you up and support you. Give other people the opportunity to surprise, delight, and share their gifts with you. 

Let yourself do less. So often our culture of consumption guides us to do more, be more productive, purchase more goods, be involved in more projects. But the answers lie in less. Consume less. Do less. Be involved in fewer things. Give yourself space and time to rest, to learn, to gather your thoughts before you push yourself to accomplish or acquire one more thing. Let yourself be done. Let yourself have enough. What you have is ok. You are enough as you are one this moment. And you don’t need to change, develop, learn or grow any more. Be satiated. Be satisfied. And let yourself enjoy the pleasure of arriving exactly as you are, where you are, right now.